Originally Posted by
Katiekate 
Lawyer up sister, this is war.
YOu need to have someone working for your best interests.
Push pass the feelings and just do what is right for you.
You won't regret it.
This!
I'm in the middle of legal separation from my AH, which in CA is basically the same process as divorce. I'm going for 50% of our business. I've had to really push and fight to protect my interests, and there are some days when I just want to walk away from it all.
My counselor told me she's counseled many women over the years who, in the pain and heat of the divorce process, caved and didn't scrap for their fair share. Then they wind up in counseling 3-4 years later, when reality really hits, maybe the alimony is dwindling, and they are struggling to get by. Then they are dealing with the reality of not having gotten everything they could out of the marriage financially. She really encouraged me to put my Big Girl Pants on and get very mental with it all, and demand my 50% (or more).
My attorney basically told me the same thing, that not demanding what was mine would come back to haunt me down the line.