Originally Posted by
calblondie 
fourmaggie - Is this what happened to you? Gosh, I didn't realize it would be such an issue since he wants to be sober.
He feels threatened by me attending meetings because I want to
stand up for what I NEED??!!
Karin
for me? well, ..i did NOT make him my #1...
I WAS #1..boy he hated that...my changes where slow...but fast...everyday was something new..I stopped asking about his recovery(realizing that was wrong of me to do) just enabling stuff, making his bed, making breakfast (later he would sneek out of the house b4 i got up...just to have that DRINK)
one thing that struck me was he was mad at my changes..the reaction, the behaviour, and the attitudes...all of it...he said "hun, this al anon is not working out for us, i think you should go back and talk to someone."
what he meant was, i was not working out for HIM and not enabling HIM...and i was making me the important one...ooh ya, and he was a narcassist...
and more was to be revealed AFTER he left...and my gut told me so...