I think one of the reasons why I am not terribly distraught by this divorce is because the idea of what comes next really excites me! Ok, this chapter didn't work out the way I wanted it to, so close it, and move into the next chapter. And who knows what adventures lay around the corner...
I like meeting new people, so I am not afraid of dating when the time is right. I am much more enlightened having gone through the last 5 years. I think the next chapter is going to be a lot of fun, and I look forward to it all.
I get to be a new "me". That's an exhilarating feeling.
And just for fun, compare the feeling you have now to the feeling you had when you were married to your AXH -- whether R or not...
I feel like I got a new lease on life when I got out of my A marriage.
Before that, I was basically waiting to get old and die.
Now, I can't wait to figure out what I want to do next.