I attempted to respond to your last post....not so sure if it worked or not!
Originally Posted by
FourTwentyOne 
I know my kids feel the stress in the house.
I tried something I read on one of the posts here - I stopped checking up on him, trying to find out if he's smoked, if he has anything on him.
He seems a lot happier and he's being very nice to everyone.
This isn't stopping him from smoking -- isn't this like sweeping the problem under the rug??
It's soooo important that you protect them from as much insanity as possible. They are so innocent in all of this. It took me a long time to realize i was not helping my children by keeping their active father around just so i could say their father was around.
No, this is simply admitting that nothing you say or do is going to stop him from choosing to use. NOTHING!! No amount of begging, pleading, beeyatching, crying, inspecting, checking up on him....it's ALL a waste of precious time and energy you could spend on yourself and most importantly, your children! You cannot CHANGE OR CONTROL him!