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I see all of the above did make it in your post - looks like it posted twice to me???? Who knows.
Wow, that is really tough that you are legally blind so cannot drive, I'm terribly sorry to hear that. There are on line meetings I think. I've never checked them out, I live in an area w/alot of meetings at different places, on different days, etc.
It sounds to me like you need to start making a plan to take care of yourself and your kids. What resources are available for counseling for you and your kids, who else can you call on for rides, how can you take the focus off your husband and put it back on the rest of the family (the participating members of the family?), etc. SR will be a very good resource for you, there are many experienced members here.
I will keep you in my thoughts.