Well, my xah came into our life after a 2.5 month absence. He TEXTED me out of the blue "hey how are you. Would like to see our son" this was august 4th. He still hasn't seen him yet because of himself.
I told him that he must call me first so we can discuss my sons well being before he sees him. I set a date. He never called, but expected to see my son. Like I would forget that we hadn't of had a discussion. He was very angry when I called him out on his lies (he tried to tell me he called). But, I stuck to my boundries and said he needed to call. I scheduled another visit, but expected a phone call last night. He called at 8:30. I missed the call, and called him back 8 minutes later...phone went straight to voicemail. Texted...no response. I emailed him for documentAtion the date, missed call and said he can't see our son until he calls me.
Meanwhile, he is so pissed off because I told our son that daddy is sick. He will not let this go. In fact, he is super angry about this. I told him that at our visitation all he has to say is that daddy feels better and move on. Let it go. But it bothers him so much to have to admit to this. He came back into our life thru a text...no apology...no excuses...entitled. he told me 3 weeks after his text that "he was away on a job" and he doesn't understand why we can't tell my son this. He even went so far as to call me a liar...he said "how can you lie to your son like that?" Which was hilarious to me because he 10 minutes earlier told me that he had paid child support, but he didn't. Anyways, my point is this...I can't believe how scared he is to tell our son that he was sick and is now feeling better. It just goes to show you the power of denial and self deception. He is so scared to even admit he is/was sick to a 4yr old. Wow!
I'm really surprised at what a jerk he is being. Drugs really distort reality. I mean I have no idea who this man is anymore. I mean there is no accountability for anything. Such power drugs have.
And yes, I'm trying to keep as little contact as possible. I am abiding by the law and have a plan in plAce. He only has supervised visits. I'm doing what is right and trying to stay sane in the thick of it.
