Welcome to SR. Sorry for the situation that brings you here, but rarely do people quit drinking when it isn't causing them grief.
Originally Posted by
Blue29 
I have told him I am not drinking anymore whether or not we stay together and am making big changes, and I want him to believe in me and see what I really am and can be.
Work your recovery, for youself. Get sober, stay sober, and let your actions speak for you.
Maybe it won't help for the current boyfriend. It sure will help for the next.