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Welcome to SR, I'm soo glad you found this site. You'll find much experience, strength and support here.
My son was the addict in my life, so I am not as familiar with having an addict spouse. Although . . . my father was an alcoholic and my ex-husband had outbursts of uncontrolled anger and unrealistic expectations of me and our children - abuses...
Why don't you drive? How soon can you remedy that? You need independence and AlAnon/NarAnon meetings. (In my humble opinion.)
Good luck and many others will be along to offer their support.