Thank you for this post.
It appears clear that you have spent years working on your own codependency issues. Even though, to lose all those wonderful years to a devil pill? My heart goes out to you.
Your clarity of mind is encouraging and hopeful. It gives me hope that detachment does come when we learn what we own and what our addicts own.
My pilot light is burning strong, and posts like yours help us all.
My prayers are with you as you begin your new life. I don't doubt you will fly.
In compassion,
Peaceandgrace