oh Osier....you are so right! When I was explaining to my husband that the actual 'drinking' beer is just a symptom of the over all disease, and explaining the other characteristic behaviors of the disease - I aske him "how do you feel about that?". And he answered that he has been confused, and nothing seems to go right, and on and on. Then I told him that I had hit my rock bottom and looked at how I had been handling our relationship and asked myself "how's that working for ya?" and realized - it wasn't. And that's when I dove head into recovery and decided to change. So, then I said - "so, I'll ask you the same thing - how's this working for ya?" I love that!