I suggest giving her more time. She is less than 60 days sober. Her body is still withdrawing from her physical addiction.
She has abused her body with alcohol for years. She didn't arrive in this situation overnight and it will take more than 60 days to correct years of self inflicted abuse. She will need to learn new coping skills. One of them will hopefully be to stop reacting and start repsonding to life/people/things.
There is no time frame for humility and amends. Some addicts never come to those stages of recovery.
Please beware of your own premeditated expectations of what her recovery should look like. Resentments are a result of our own premeditated expectations of someone else's behavior.