Please put your dog down and let him/her go to the Rainbow Bridge. I know it
is not easy. Over the years I have had to do this 15 times so far and I have
another getting ready to tell me when. I learned a few dogs ago, that I cannot
keep them around for me, I have to let them go when their quality of life has
diminished.
Your AH sound like a typical male in this vent. I have always said that men are
really little boys that haven't grown up, the only difference is that their toys are
more expensive now.
My second husband, would take off his underwear, shirt, shorts and socks and drop
them on the floor where he stood, 4 feet from the laundry hamper. I finally got
fed up telling him, and just left them there. It took 2 weeks and quite a pile of
underwear, but he finally ran out, and wondered where his clean ones were. I
told him right where you dropped them, and he looked down at the floor when he
had been daily kicking the pile to move it out of his way. He started to pick them up
and put them in the hampers and I said NOPE don't you dare. You go wash them,
dry them and put them away.
Well it worked for a bit, his underwear would make it to the hamper, but a pile was
again forming. He tried to put the 'pile' in the hamper when I wasn't around, but I
just took it back out and put it on the floor. He FINALLY figured it out after a few
months and his underwear was put in the hamper daily. Didn't save the marriage,
though too many other things were haywire.
I understand you were just venting with your original post, I have to say that most of
it sounds like expectations that were not met, your expectations.
So ........................ you either accept this behavior since it has apparently been
going on for a very long time, not accept it and keep your guts in an uproar, and/or continue on working on you leaving the relationship.
J M H O
Love and hugs,