Hey JT :-)
Sounds just like my dad. He understood the first half of the first step just fine, but skipped all the rest of the progarm. Got sober, but not sane.
When he passed away last June I was non-consensually involved in the issue of the inheritance and the will. I discovered that my dad had been married to a very sweet lady for the last 20 years or so. Nobody on my mother's side of the family knew that. Technically that made him a bigamist.
My dad went to meetings regularly, spoke, shared, had a sponsor, sponsored others. Put on a great act. But he had two wives and two parallel families. In the will, he very carefuly set things up so that _neither_ wife would get anything. Even though both of them supported him financially for most of his adult life.
Oh yeah, and his second wife is actually a little younger than me :-)
Mike :-)