Thank you for all of the additional input since I checked this thread. He had a migraine Thursday and I spent time in the ER with him. He was crying and carrying on about feeling safe here and not wanting to leave. I firmly but gently told him we love him, he has 4 choices: rehab, sober living, possible sober living with his sponsor or other aa/na contact, or an apartment by himself. Our home is not an option as I need to work on my recovery. Told him to talk to his sponsor and his psychiatrist at this week's appointment and let us know his choice.