I am finding that as much as I love my family they are the hardest place for me to hold onto my well learned/earned lessons of growth.
Awareness
Acceptance
Action
It has taken me a long time to even realize that my family was not "normal." Longer to realize how worked up (even with all the recovery under me) I get when I see them.
Finally I am starting to understand (therapy session yesterday) how outside driven I am.
If I feel something internally, and someone outside of me says something incongruent to that...to make my world congruent I always default to the outside of me.
Now I am aware of it and I get to work on the other parts.