Emptyshell, he's being really abusive. Please try to go to a meeting in the next 2 days, not the next two weeks. It's really not worth your breath trying to tell him how you feel, harsh as that may sound. Please take a look at this very instructive tool and see what fits for you. It helped me see things in my past relationship that I had been overlooking because I was trying so hard to help, understand, fix, support, love. Please take care of your SELF.
http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/PowerandControl.pdf
You are my thoughts and prayers today.