You have described my nickname on here and zoomed into its real meaning!
You are romanticizing what that other guy COULD HAVE BEEN. Who knows...he could have been a complete nightmare too, you'll never know. So let that fantasy go too...you have a real life ahead of you--you simply don't know what it is, or how it will play out yet. The unknown.
Congrats on considering a future instead of just the ABF...your life ahead is an adventure, you are the writer of your own life, write a good read, as i love to read a good book...become your own favorite storyteller.