Well if you had a thorn in your finger what would you do?
It's from a rose - it was a beautiful rose but when you held it too tightly this thorn got embedded in your finger.
It's now festering and getting infected. You'd pull it out - throw it away and do something to heal your finger right?
Well, what I have read about your relationship - how you caught him RED HANDED with this woman...how you listened and heard everything yourself. How he lied about the condoms and how you even heard him discussing the whole condom issue with the other woman...WHY would you want back into a relationship where you KNOW he is not honoring or respecting you? Pluck out the thorn and throw it away!!! It might have been from a beautiful rose (your relationship before all this happened) but now it is just causing you harm. It's infecting your thinking.
Remember your anger. Go back and read the post you wrote right after you recorded everything. Remember how you felt when you wrote that. A's have a way of weaseling back in under your skin ... lies, charm, manipulation ...DO NOT FALL FOR IT.
Nothing good is going to come from this. Patterns will repeat. He will be abusive again and you will get hurt. Seriously do you want to spend the rest of your life with this sort of drama??
Good luck itsmylifenow AND REMEMBER IT'S YOUR LIFE NOW!!