Welcome to the SR family!
I hope you will continue to read and post as much as needed. I enjoy reading in our sticky posts (older, permanent posts) located at the top of this main page. The stickies contain some of our stories and a lot of wisdom from members that have walked the same path.
Your title to this thread is "Has he recovered and I haven't"?
In my personal recovery, I had to take steps to change my behaviors, reactions, and outlooks of life. I made these changes by reading self-improvement books, attending Alanon meetings, and reading/posting here at SR. I am a healthier, happier me because of my recovery work.
Can I ask what steps you are taking to help yourself recover from an alcoholic relationship?