My plan is to not drink. Sounds stupid, but that's all I have right now. Got a DUI about 10 years ago. Really changed my life for the better.
Limitting myself worked for a while, then stopped completely for 3 years or so. Then picked up a beer here or there. Six years later and now I drink at home almost every day, drinking until I can barely stand. What started with 'a little something to take the edge off', 'to help me sleep', etc, has turned in to a full blown mess. I never miss work or anything. Don't really go to bars much. I just come home and drink WAY too much.
My relationship with my wife is wonderful, but falling apart. Every few months, a routine disagreement happens at the wrong time and I wake up alone wondering what I said this time. Been happening throughout our relationship. 98% wonderful and 2% not worth it, I think she said. I've lost her trust and repect.
I know relationship stuff needs to be dealt with seperately, but it was kind of made me realize how bad its gotten.
Thanks, sorry about the babbling