I'm sure the 1 year rule refers to dating new people in recovery,not to those already in long term relationships. That said, 1 person getting sober can change the balance in any relationship. I have to put my sobriety first(luckily my DH supports me) but if he didn't and wanted me to drink I would have to question the relationship and consider what was really in my best interests.could you maybe take up new interests ,meet new sober people.good luck