Originally Posted by
MsAprilJ 
I am afraid if I don't succeed in sobriety it is only a matter of time. On the other hand, I am afraid that if I do succeed in sobriety, it is only a matter of time. It is a conundrum for sure. I suppose it may be best to just take one day at a time....
Hey, so I will do you a favor and leave the relationship advice to others, but since you mentioned AV... I think you've got enough here for a choir. If you don't succeed? You do have some say in the matter, yeah? A downside to recovery? Only AV could conceive of such a thing...
When I start feeling overwhelmed, I find it helpful to focus. First, on the present. What are the facts as they stand right now? Not fears, but facts. Second, which of those things do I have any influence over? The list of things I need to think about gets a lot smaller when I apply those two filters.
I hope things smooth out with your BF soon.
