Thank you, Memphis. I really appreciate your response. He has quit with me before and does not drink around me now. But he will say something like, "so are we drinking at the show tomorrow night or not.... Its up to you?" When I hear that my AV voice kicks in and says, well, he obviously doesn't think you need to quit... Maybe you don't? I know that I have to take responsibility for my own addiction, but we ARE in a relationship and getting sober is hard enough, I think, when one is alone! I moved to a different state to be with him so I have no friends here... Which is probably for the best since most of my friends like to drink too much. I am going to check out AA and hopefully I will make some connections there. I agree, gonna have to say no to Vegas this time. The reality is, I would be setting myself up for failure.