No, you weren't just a b****.
I thought this part was great:
"good for you, I hope you are able to accomplish your new goals." I reminded him that there are lots of places for him to find help and support and encouraged him to utilize those options.
But did you get anything normal, healthy, or positive in support of this?:
I told him while he is working on his personal goals, I will continue to work on mine so that i can get back in control of my life.