We've discussed the step thing before Ttal - there's other ways to live a happy sober/clean recovered life apart from the 12 steps - there's many people here as testament to that.
I think, as long as we're actively working on our recovery and are happy being sober, as long as we have support behind us, and as long as we accept we cannot use again if we want to keep the life we have now, we'll be ok
Thoughts are thoughts - it's what we do in response to those thoughts that counts
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