Hi MrLofG
I'm pretty straightforward with this.
We don't get to set the timetable for others forgiving us. We don't get to control what others think of us either.
The fact that someone else may have been nasty to me does not mitigate the many things I did.
Some people forgave my past behaviour when they saw I'd changed...others did not.
I'd like everyone to acknowledge what an awesome fellow I am now...but it's not going to happen. I hurt too many people then.
It is what it is.
Like someone else said above, this day is about your ex, not you.
Go smile, play nice, thank folks for the letters....and then get on with your life.
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