Liz, I am just afraid of what your AH will do that is going to hurt you to your core. The way his mind works is truly sick and I wonder if you see that or not. We get so caught up focusing on the drinking behavior we can't see the forest for the trees. Think of the most hurtful thing he could do to you, don't you want to avoid that? I'm worried. They are capable of the most horrific, heartless acts, and do them out of selfishness, resentment, and sickness.