Sounds like the typical alcoholic circle jerk conversation.
How bout this,
Him, it scares me because things have been so tentative between us that you might find someone else, I see you are unhappy and I want this to work.
You, I am committed to this relationship, but there are just somethings that I can't have in my life anymore. But I do love you and want the best for both of us.
Ya know, expression of real feelings, not this big smoke screen, where the feelings are lost.
My x used to want to get together, ME well I can't til Sunday, I have this, this this this on these days, HIM Oh I can't Sunday, I have things to do too. Instead of have xyz on Sunday, how bout Monday. Just end of conversation.
Just ridiculous and hurtful words.
Liz, it just sounds like you AH needs so badly to do some kind of self examination, you are moving leaps and bounds ahead of him. My ex used to keep me in it by frustrating me, or not letting me express myself, I was literally upset by every conversation. It sucks.