Honestly lizatola, I see you trying to have these conversations, and then paying good money for a marriage counselor, trying to get this person to change so you can save a sick relationship with a very sick and dysfunctional person. How are you feeling? Angry and depressed. Not healthy. Not good for you and the longer you keep yourself mired in it, the angrier and more depressed you are going to become. His concession to stop drinking is not going to last long. The fact that he doesn't want to go to AA is an indication that he doesn't think he has a problem and therefore doesn't think he needs to do anything to change. He's not willing to look at himself. Can you see how the conversation you had was all about blaming and threatening you?