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Originally Posted by
lesliej 
with my ex it was such a great and healthy freedom to tell him to "call his sponsor"
why not encourage him...? maybe some would say not to, to let him do it himself...but encouraging him to get a sponsor is also a way of encouraging recovery...and if it affects you in a positive way, so that you don't have to be his sounding board which reinforces your codependency then encouraging him to get a sponsor can be a good thing
I mention this for him, but also for YOU!
I appreciate this. Just that from where I am, NA/AA meetings are not happening. I do this on my own, reading, and being here on this site. I will suggest that he look for a sponsor then, but am not gonna be pushy. Just like you said, I dont want to be that same " controlling " codependent anymore. Am trying.
