This all sounds so familiar. I've been there many times, trying to save the last remnants of what is left of his life. Bottom line is.. It doesn't matter.
Whether you retrieve the items or not will most likely change absolutely nothing of the outcome. I have to be reminded frequently that if I'm doing something expecting a particular result, I'm still trying to control. Get it... Don't get it....he will probably wind up losing it one way or another if he isn't serious about recovery.
I understand your pain and I'm so sorry. Wouldn't it be nice if there were a manual telling us exactly what to do to get "our" desired results? But then, that would still be us trying to have things our way? Though we KNOW our way is right....
