WTBH, I got a load of your 2 (from above post) tonight. And, have been struggling with 3 the last couple of weeks. Will have to ponder this, as I do think most of the time, that my relationship wth AH is over. I know that we are not supposed to make major decisions in the first X amount of time, but, when do we start counting? After the promises to change? After the forced "dry" period? When they come home from rehab? When more damage is done?
I do understand that if we (my AH and I) are going to make it together, we have to work on whole new ways of communicating. I am not sure if I want to work that hard. I don't have to with my other relationships. I actually have been trying to do so for the last few years as I have learned better communication skills away from home, but he doesn't EVER want to play. He sure didn't tonight.