My mom and daughter both think Al-Anon and CoDA are foolishness, but as the daughter says, "if you think you need that..."
My mother spent years enslaved to an alcoholic, physically abusive, philandering husband (not my father) and his substance abusing daughter; my daughter is living a very soul-less life with a man whom I believe to be a controlling sociopath, but OK, I'm not ashamed to say something went wrong in my life and I want to do better from here on.
I'm still looking for the Al-Anon or CoDA group that suits me. That's a topic unto itself.