Thanks for replies everyone! I am working on my own thing and I realize she has to make the decision on her own. Her family is as concerned as I am. She had such a close call we all just hate to sit back and do nothing and not be as lucky next time around.
It sounds like it is possible to just sail right through with very little symptoms so I'll mentally relax and continue to be there for her. If she really is stopping we can be good support for each other in the future.