Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
So in a way, you stayed in the relationship for 12 years. Maybe not physically, but in a fantasy in your head. If you think about that, it's really not so different as those of us who stayed physically. We were all in denial.
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This is true/ The difference is, when I saw the mistake I had made with it, I eliminated it from my life, as quickly as possible. I had no use or interest in staying involved with an alcoholic in a laughable and dysfunctional relationship and lamenting about my decision and love for it. As you do with an abcessed tooth, I had it removed, I didnt keep it in because I was so in love with the tooth and had compassion for it.