you may be interested in local Al-Anon meetings so you can learn how to take care of yourself while dealing with an alcoholic spouse. you can also pick up a When & Where (a list of AA meetings in your area) that you can leave out for him should he ever decide to seek help for himself. perhaps him seeing you taking it so serious will make him realize what an effect it's having on you and the family. sometimes words aren't enough. sometimes it takes action and the only action you can take is one that involves yourself.