Welcome ncblue,
The first few days can be tough. Especially if your husband does not stop or recognize the issue with you. Does he?
I am trying to quite with a spouse but we are both trying together.
While we are doing it together we are clear that we need to do it first for ourselves. No other way to go about it but to be selfish that way.
Hope the best for you.... I am sure the SR folks here will provide the support you need.
And hang in there today!!,