Originally Posted by anvilhead

he's an addict, he lied about and covered up his continued active use, only fessed up when "caught" and is now feeding you the song and dance of wanting to quit and NEEDING your help to do so.

this translates to: if you hadn't busted me, i'd still be using. in order to get you off my back i'm going to say i want to quit, and because i really have no intention of doing so i'm going to tell you i need your help, so that when i "fail" (ie use again at the next possible moment) it will be YOUR fault, not mine.

if he REALLY wanted to quit, he would. if he was truly motivated, nothing would get in his way. you've known him for a teeny bit of time, his life and his addiction are much more vast and long lived. his condition is not your problem. and dating relationships should not become treatment interventions. you've seen addiction up close and personal....you know the swamp has live alligators in it. you REALLY wanna jump in there?