Hi emeraldsea, Welcome to SR!
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend, but he is in good hands right now.
Are you working, are you in school, what are some things that you have been neglecting in your life because every thought or discussion or action has been wrapped up in the disease of alcoholism?
Turning the focus from him and the disease and back to the things in your life that need attention is what we mean. Have you had your hair cut lately? Gone for a hike like you (maybe) used to? Have you spent an hour in the local bookstore just browsing? Have you gone for a bike ride lately? There are lots of things in our lives that get pushed aside because of the drama and chaos of addiction. Focusing on ourselves means getting back these things we used to enjoy.