In my case, I confronted my mother for the abuse in the past. Our version of events was wildly different. She still blames everything on my dad. So that was not helpful at all. I came to the conclusion that it's best to leave it in the past. If you can forgive and find some common ground in the here and now, that's great. Otherwise, just work on yourself. Everyone doesn't want to change. If you want to, work on that. Hugs to you. Sobriety rocks.