I've always struggled with this. These days though I have been so hurt and disrespected by him that I really do want to say "outta here"! The thing that makes it extra difficult though is his health - particularly recent surgery for spinal cord infection, iv pump at "home", and he is very sick.
What do I do about this? He doesn't slow down when there is something on his mind - such as moving his camper. He works in the heat relentlessly with a broken pic line and vomiting every hour or so. He won't take care of himself, even with cleanliness. He writhes in pain at times, and when i see those broken-up limbs (from a previous accident) unable to be still and he says his hands just don't work right any longer, I just don't know how to deal with that! Some of me wants to say "out of my life..I can't do this another day" and another part of me wants to constantly say how to take care of himself. He, too, is depressed and I can see why. All of this in active addiction.