My family had the same experience as Laurie. We had family meetings where my addict brother and what we were going to do for him was the topic of conversation. We all enabled him and his wife. We gave them houses, money, cars, clothing, free babysitting, you name it. Over many years bro and his wife just git worse and worse till they were out of their minds on heroin, coke, whatever they could get. They split and that is when it got worse. I had to go full no contact. I stopped taking calls, would not see him, etc. The rest of the family followed suit. I think it was 2 years later he was homeless living in a tent somewhere but it was only then that he finally got clean. Looking back, We should have cut him off much sooner.