Originally Posted by
amaslow 
I'd keep it simple.. Changed the locks... your stuff is is the basement..( just so he knows this is final) Wish you well. Then stick to it. Don't talk to him.. EVen if you are home., he can't get in the apartment, right? Don't let him in. Is he violent? Are you afraid of him?
No, he will not be able to get in the apartment. He had some things packed when I got home from work last Monday. Since his latest thing had been stealing, I just had to look to make sure he wasn't taking anything important (even though I pretty much had already locked most things away in my bedroom) and I noticed jars of pasta sauce, other condements, etc. hidden in his shoes. I kinda laughed because that's what it's come down to. It kinda bugged me too that he felt he had to sneak food but whatever, pick and choose my battles and this wasn't worth it.
No, he's not violent and I'm not afraid of him but it's been soooo long since I've felt at peace that I am afraid of the drama and with how unreasonable he is and how entitled he feels, I just don't want to be around if I don't have to.
Originally Posted by
boldaslove It's funny (in a macabre sort of way), I always thought zombies were the perfect analogy for addicts. Your loved one is dead, concerned only with acquiring their DOC, flesh, and there is no point in reasoning with them because they will either eat you or turn you into one of them! The best and only thing to do is protect yourself at all cost. Ok, not really very funny, but surprisingly accurate.
Funny you mention this but you're right now that I think about it. Any time I had an ache or whatever, it was always "take this" and I wanted no part of it.
Originally Posted by
dgillz First things first: Is he on the lease or mortgage? If so, you can't legally do this - he is entitled to stay there and if you want him out you have to take the legal action to get him out. This is true even if you paid 100% of all the bills.
Even if everything is in your name, in some (if not all) states if he can prove residency (drivers license, voters registration, etc.) then you still have give him 30 day notice, you can't lock him out.
Time to talk to a lawyer.
He's on the lease but never paid a dime towards rent or any bills. I asked him to move out in May so he's had plenty of notice and has offers (family) to go. The best (for him) would have been his aunt's but he didn't like the rules - inpatient first before living with her.
Hopefully, he knows it's time to move on.