We know.We just don't WANT to know.Because we don't want to face
the truth.To this day I rationalize that the observable facts about the
person I was helping might have been 'misinterpreted' by me and
as a result,I abandoned a 'friend' in their time of greatest need.
Except it's not true.What I observed was real.It was my fantasy
(what I so dearly WANTED to believe) ......that was false.
Things that are true make sense.Things that are not take all sorts
of mental gymnastics (rationalizations) to 'fit'.
Round pegs CAN fit in square holes......they just require a sledgehammer and
a lot of grunting.But round pegs fit SO much better.