Originally Posted by
zoso77 
Addicts are often like emotional black holes; no matter what you give them or how you support them, it doesn't register and they instead focus on what they perceive has you NOT helping them.
I agree. He has always felt sorry for himself, I never do enough, give enough attention, give enough respect, enough appreciation, enough sex, enough caring. And this has escalated through our marriage, got worse when he started with the drugs but was always there. The more kids we had or the more time I put into school and work, the more self pitying he would get. Just like an empty black hole that could never be filled.