Originally Posted by
tiger1 
Has anyone got a good way to deal with regrets ?
I wish I'd made better decisions in my life, and because of my bad decissions I feel I've ruined my life.
IMO the main goal of recovery (and spirituality in general) is to learn that both happiness and misery are an inside job. We can stop making mountains out of molehills and turn calamity into opportunity simply by developing a whole new outlook on life.
I am not just talking about positive thinking. Positive thinking is just a temporary kludge that masks the problem for a brief period of time. What I am talking about is an entirely new way of life like Taoism, Zen or 12 Step programs.
"In this life - pain is inevitable - suffering is optional."