i've been NC for a week now and i have found that it really makes me feel better to accept that i can't control or understand what my ex is up to. he could be doing blow, he could be sleeeping, he could be paddling a canoe in a river, he could be falling in love and getting himself into treatment.
bottom line: it doesn't mean anything to me or about me.
and...he literally just emailed me as i type this. they don't get the hint, do they?