I think it's not just alcoholism that causes emotional development to slow or stop. I was abused from the time I was about 5 years old, and that really hampered my emotional development. But, I didn't start drinking till my forties. I can relate to you being frustrated by the situation. I look back on situations when I was not mature enough to handle things and I wish I had been wiser. However, all we can do is work with what we have now.
