Originally Posted by
lizatola 
Yes, maybe that's it. In the letter I was going to give him I explained how what he was doing compromises my values and beliefs and violates the law and how that affects us as a family. I have chosen to not actually SPEAK to him about any of his behaviors because he doesn't seem to want to hear the truth. Maybe I should give him the letter after all? At least then he knows my thoughts, but what good is that really going to do? I am not ready to walk out yet, I know it's crazy but I'm just not there yet. I'm going to work hard at acceptance and I finally got a sponsor in Al Anon so I'm hoping to gain some insight and serenity as I move forward.
Just food for thought Liz,
I think he knows that what he is doing goes against
your values and beliefs. How could he not.
You are not willing to tell the truth to anyone who can not hear it. And the thing about telling the truth to an A is , it throws more manipulations , lies, half truths and slicing and dicing into the mix, at some point I know I stopped talking because I could not be cut wide open again.
If you are not ready to walk yet, you are not, leaving will continue to be in your mind, but you are growing and moving forward, so sometimes that has to be where you are. Things are opening up for you, the timing for the vaca is perfect, enjoy it and things will all fall into place.