You are important. You are important. You are important. You are important. And one more time...YOU ARE IMPORTANT.
You don't need his acknowledgement to be important. You know what is important to him. Alcohol or DOC he has is most important. So any friends that help him continue to nurse his addiction take priority.
You are your own priority. Take the power you have given him over your emotions BACK. He doesn't deserve to have this kind of hold over you. Yes, be angry and vent, vent, vent. But do it in a healthy way and get to the root of your emotions. All I read in your post was WHAT ABOUT ME? And that is the right question. What about you? How can you get your needs met in a healthy way? How can you become the top priority in your life. His addiction has taken up enough space in your mental Rolodex.
Get back to you. You deserve more attention than you give him. You are somebody, you are important, and you deserve to be acknowledged, listened to, and loved.
Love and Light,
Lily